How do you handle your child’s appalling behavior? Do you use threats and punishments to get them in line and obedient? Do you keep calm, cool, collected, and calmly discuss the situation with them? Both can work, but which one should you use when disciplining?
Disciplining through Violence
When a teenager gets upset, he might act out. Some students act out by hitting or pushing other students. Others act out by breaking school property. So, if a student breaks school property, is it okay to slap him, kick him, or hit him with a piece of the school’s property? How is discipline fair when the punishment seems excessive? Is violence always bad?
When disciplining your child, it’s important to be consistent. When you discipline your child for bad behavior, it’s important not to yell or do it in anger. Regardless of the reason as to why you’re disciplining your child, it’s essential to do so in a positive manner.
Disciplining through Calm Discussions
One of the enduring challenges parents are facing is disciplining their children effectively. It can be frustrating when you do your best to explain to a child why they should not do a particular thing, but the child either fails to listen or responds by sending you into frustration. This is especially difficult when your child is of school-age because they are suddenly exploring their independence, and this independence brings with it a resistance to parental control. Discipline is thought of as a quality that we try to give our children.
Parents often discipline kids with yelling, punishing, and even physical punishment. These tactics don’t work for anyone, as the kids who get yelled at or punished for misbehaving often don’t know how to react to the behavior, leading to more misbehavior. The kids who get the physical punishment don’t remember the pain of being hit, so they learn to associate painful hitting with bad behavior.
Parents play an important role in their child’s life. And it’s sometimes hard for them, especially when they have teenagers. Their teens may break the rules and disobey authority. Parents sometimes have trouble deciding what to do about it. Some parents like to have conversations. But, some parents may think that “It’s better to ignore it and tell your kid to just ‘behave.’” However, many teenagers, and even some parents, may see the parent’s reaction as “they’re killing my fun.”
Children are being punished for misbehavior in school, and parents are wondering which method is better—hitting or talking? The debate has been going on for centuries, but a new study suggests that discipline isn’t as simple as it used to be. One study, in particular, asked children to choose between a calm discussion and hitting their sibling, and both forms of discipline produced positive behavior.
Children’s behavior problems are one of the most stressful experiences for parents. But it’s important to remain calm when discussing these behaviors. When children act out or misbehave, it’s easy to feel frustrated and fed up, but it’s essential to keep things in perspective. Instead of getting upset, try to see the situation from your child’s point of view. Many experts agree that children are more likely to become aggressive when discipline is met with aggression. So, before disciplining your child, it’s essential to consider which method is more likely to calm the situation down. Calm discussions, or techniques that get your child to slow down, often resolve issues faster.
For a child, discipline can be a scary word. But for parents, it’s a fact of life. Deciding to discipline your child may seem difficult, especially if you’ve already been undisciplined in the past. But it doesn’t have to be that way. Discipline is a vital aspect of raising children; without it, children act out and disrespect their parents, leading to a lack of respect from friends, teachers, and peers. Studies and reports have indicated that children who become disrespectful toward their parents often are disrespectful to others.
Discipline is enforcing house rules, making your children obey them, and consistently punishing them when they fail to follow these rules. Boys and girls that grow up in homes without rules are more rebellious and more likely to rebel as adults. Discipline also involves you helping your children develop appropriate social skills.
One of the important qualities of being a parent is setting a good example. By being disciplined yourself, you set a good example for your children to follow. Being disciplined yourself also sets a good pattern for your children to follow, making them productive members of society.